Not long ago, I posted here about how my heart is so heavy and saddened by the state of and attitude towards marriages in our society, as well as those of some dear friends of ours.
While I know many of you will find it ridiculous and I've had others say they've completely written the family off, I have to tell you tonight I sat in bed and sobbed tears for the Gosselin family as I watched the announcement that first, they were separating, and then that as of today, a petition had been filed for the dissolution of their ten-year marriage.
If you've read this blog for any length of time, you know my position on marriage and it's sacredness. While, as always, I mean no judgement on anyone facing divorce (my husband has been married and divorced once before I met him, so I have personal experience with how much hurt it can cause both the people involved as well as the people around them) or having the fresh wounds and heartache of such, I also must say that I can't help but deeply grieve for this family as if I knew them personally. I'm not the "star-struck" type. I don't normally care about celebrities or get into the tabloid gossip. But unlike a movie star or singer/songwriter's fame, this family became well-known for being just that...a family. And however hard they will try to make things normal for their children (and they have gone above and beyond the norm in most ways), these children will always be part of a broken home and will always have this as their legacy, and it makes my heart truly ache for all 10 of them.
Kate said she wasn't sure Jon understood the ramifications of this choice and that she never expected her children, years down the road, would be the ones talking to friends and having to say, "My parents divorced when I was (fill in the blank age)."
When she said that, I realized just how real this family is because I'm sure this is how most parents feel when they come to the point of divorce in their marriage. I can't imagine parent ever believes this is where they would end up and that their children would perhaps have stepparents and have to split their time between homes.
America has been invested in this family for five years now and, as they have been in our homes every Monday night, they have, in a sense, become like family to us. We yelled at Kate as she berated Jon, we laughed as the kids pulled crazy stunt after crazy stunt, and we now cry as the end of their union comes only months after renewing their wedding vows.
I am so sad. Criticize me if you will. I know it's a t.v. show. I know I don't know the whole story. But I don't have to. I think each of us has things we are super-sensitive about for whatever reason, and I believe the sanctity and beauty of marriage is one for me.
I sincerely pray that this family will find the peace they are searching for and that the foundation of their faith will remind them that TRUE peace doesn't come from being independent, or standing up for yourself, or being able to pay for each and every one of your children's college education, or doing "your own thing" because it's just too difficult to come together.
Instead of criticizing them, let's pray for them, won't you? This family needs Christian love now more than ever.
"The Lord gives His people strength. The Lord blesses them with peace." Psalm 29:11